Hey lovely Reader
I recorded this on a sunny Saturday morning, after a very slow start. There was a part of me thinking I was running late... but what is late? What's early? When there's no fixed time anyway.
It sparked thoughts about the power of going with the slow — understanding that we can move at our own pace, even when the world around us is rushing.
So often we feel pressure to move faster through change. Through grief. Through transitions. Through the messy, uncomfortable staging posts of change.
But our internal mechanisms don't move at the same pace as external events. The outside might be moving fast, but inside we need time to catch up. To collect ourselves. To ensure we don't leave the slower parts of ourselves behind.
In this week's reflection, I explore:
- The wisdom of the butterfly emerging at its own pace
- The impact of small, subtle shifts in our language
- The alphabet between A and B
- Titration from trauma work
- Why going with the slow isn't passive
If you love to read, I've written a Field Note on this — see below. You can also hear the episode on the Henny Flynn podcast.
Before we (slowly) move on, there's an invitation to notice: where in your life could you move more gently? What are the shoulds and oughts that push you faster? And how could they be reframed?
May you be safe, happy and well. May you live with ease. May you move at the pace that feels true for the whole of you.
With love
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For those who love to read, I've also written a Field Note on the power of moving at our own pace. It begins...
The Power of Going with the Slow
So often in life, and certainly in the realm of change, there can feel such pressure on us to move faster.
We see it when people are navigating the exquisite pain of deep grief, where there comes this point where we begin to feel: well, that's enough now. I've been grieving for long enough and it's time to get on.
There can be this rush, this pressure on ourselves to be done with grieving, when in fact every single part of us understands deeply that that's not how grief works. It doesn't have a time frame to it.
The wiser, kinder, more evolved way of navigating grief is simply to understand that it has its own cadence, its own rhythm, and all we can do is walk alongside it. And that may well mean going at a much slower pace than we've been conditioned to move at.
We see this in other realms of change too.
Hear the latest episode: The Power of Going with the Slow (S19E9) or search for the Henny Flynn podcast wherever you love to listen.