The paradox of help
Hey lovely Reader
Have you ever found yourself refusing help, even when you knew it might be just what you needed?
It's something I recognise I've done myself, at times... and I've seen many others do it too.
Perhaps a simple offer of support - a hand when you've fallen, a pen when you can't find yours, a word of advice when you're feeling stuck - and before you know it... you've rejected it.
In this week’s episode I reflect that in complex times, when emotions might run high, it can be good to understand the neuroscience and psychology of what's happening in our brains and our bodies when we're feeling activated, sensitised or triggered.
We explore:
- How our bodies move into defence when we’re feeling unsafe.
- Why help can feel like pity, even when it’s offered with love.
- And how, with a subtle shift, receiving support can become a doorway to calm, trust and connection.
Immediately after recording I spoke with a dear friend who shared two personal stories that so perfectly matched what I'd covered that the timing of this episode feels even more apt.
You can listen here. Maybe it resonates with you too? I'd love to hear your reflections - and if it feels useful, please do share with others.
May we all be safe, happy, well and at ease. May we all find the path to give and receive support that is truly needed.
With love